My Mom is Fierce

Here's my post that was included in Familysearch's blog post that featured other family historian's (like AJ Jacobs, Lisa Alzo and others) favorite mom memories. It was a fun read, go check them all out here. “My mother is loving, but fierce. The mother of seven children, she had her last child at the age of 47 and her first at 18. She has no patience for quitters and those who don’t try. Growing up her frequent saying when we said we couldn't do something (which was apparently often) was, ‘can’t never could.’ That saying never failed to make me mad when I was growing up. I wanted to quit, I wanted it to be easy – shoot, I wanted my mom to do it for me! Mom wasn't having any of it. I may have been her baby, but she didn't believe in babying me or anyone else. While I did not appreciate it at all when I was younger, I am so very grateful…now. Mom taught me to fly on my own, to not give up when things were tough, and to now say to my own children the dreaded, but Continue reading

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 30

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 30

Day 30 - Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep No one really likes to think about it, but eventually we will all leave this life and so we might as well have a say about. What do we want to say about the life we have led? What do we want others to say about us or to remember about us? What would we want our legacy to be? We can pick out our music, the clothes we want to be buried in, but our legacy is what matters, what we leave behind is being shaped everyday by our choices now.  Choose wisely. Today in your journal write down what you want at your funeral, what you want said about you. Make your wishes known. Continue reading

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 27

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 27

Day 27 - What Are Your Priorities What does success mean to you? What does it look like? When I achieve ________, then I will know that I am successful. Our success is determined largely by what our priorities are. So, take a minute to think about that and begin journaling about that. Now, where do you invest your time and energy? Do they reflect your priorities? We often need a reminder to focus on what matters most. The expedient can take our lives hostage and our priorities, can get lost. Don't let things that matter most be forgotten or relegated to last place. Continue reading

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 26

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 26

Day 26 - My Dreams For My Family If you could wish anything for your posterity, what would it be? What opportunities and chances do you hope they will have? In what type of world do you hope they will live? What do you hope they achieve, explore, or learn? What things do you hope they will avoid? Write in your journal these dreams and make your intentions known. Dreams can come true. Maybe yours will, start the fire. Continue reading

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 24

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 24

Day 24 - Your Birth Stories A seemingly universal truth is that nearly everyone loves to hear the story of their birth. I know my children are fascinated with their birth story and want to hear them repeated over and over. If you have children, write in detail each of their birth stories. No children, write your own. A birth story provides drama, romance and occasionally comedy. What's not to love? What were your feelings about the births? What was the best part and what was the worst? Knowing our stories, helps us know ourselves. Continue reading

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 22

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 22

Day 22 - My Family Wears Fur Are you an animal lover? Pets for many people are part of the family. What role have your pets that you have owned played in your life? Are you cat person or a dog person? No animals - why not? Do you prefer a certain bred? How many pets have you owned? How did you acquire the pet and what happened when the pet died? People can tell a lot about us by our pets or lack there of. Share your favorite animal stories. Continue reading

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 21

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 21

Day 21 - Aunts and Uncles Did you have a favorite aunt or uncle? What were your parent's siblings like? Today, think about the visits, the stories, the events surrounding aunts and uncles. Sometimes, when we meet and interact with our aunts and uncles, we better understand our parents and our grandparents. What insights do you have about their family that they grew up in and what influence do you see carried on through the generations. We are all links in a great chain, one family tied to the next. What things, character traits, talents, etc. do you hope is carried on for many more generations? There are some things that need to end in every family. Who was the chain breaker for a destructive culture or trait? What do we hope is not passed on? Family, sometimes they make us crazy and somehow, love survives. Continue reading

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 20

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 20

Day 20 - Your Grandparents Nana, Opi, Grandma, whatever we called them, there is nothing quite like grandparents. Were your’s the type that baked cookies and spoiled you or were they never around? Many grandparents help raise their grandchildren, and their influence is felt deeply in another generation. What were your’s like? What smells, sounds bring us back to grandma’s? What are your feelings about being a grandparent? What lessons did you learn from them or from their lives? Does knowing your grandparents explain a lot about your parents…and you? Continue reading

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 19

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 19

Day 19 - Our Siblings Our brothers and our sisters, sometimes we love them, sometimes we wonder how we survived with them - but don't let anyone say anything about our's right! What are some of your favorite stories about your siblings. Are they horror stories of the mischief and mayhem and stories you could use for blackmail? What do we do if we do not have siblings to write about because we are the only child? Do you have a friend that is like family? Or write what it was like to grow up without any siblings. Our relationships with our families all helped to define us. How has yours defined you? Continue reading

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 18

30 Days to Becoming Unforgettable – Day 18

Glad I Did Don't you just love the days when you "get it right"! Think of a time when maybe at first you didn't want to do something or you were nervous or doubtful about the outcome and you yet you did it anyway. Then we realization that the " leap of faith" worked. Maybe it didn't or out the way that you expected or it. The result could have been less than expected or better than one could imagine. Taking risks, rolling the dice, moving past our fears and doubts and having those efforts payoff are moments that should be memorialized and cherished. We sometimes have plenty of regrets in life, but the "glad-I-dids" - now that is something to write about! Continue reading